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Divorce/custody cases: Do you believe the Family Court system favors women in divorce and custody cases?
Comment: YES, and sometimes it is right and others it is wrong. I have a 6 year old grandson who lives in another state, and although my son pays his child support, he is not able to travel to see the child and the mother refuses to answer the phone so he can talk to his own child, she has control and my grandson is growing up without the benefit of a truly good father who wants to be a father to his son. In the 6 years my son has only been allowed to see his for a TOTAL of about 4 weeks. She will visit here and not even let him know she is here with the child... She does not facilitate any relationship between father and child. She should not have custody but she does.... from Pensacola by Dianna
Comment: i do..my son fought for over a year and paid 4 2 paternity test not to mention court cost..to be a part of his child life..with all the things done and mis trueths proven in court she still is able to play games and use the child. his only recourse keep spending money.and taking her to court from pensacola by florence
Comment: Florida's court system has always favored women, no matter what they did to cause them to be in court. As a man, I have lost all faith in the system after seeing it be twisted and manipulated so many times.
And in Mr. Lake's case, I bet the State favors the fleeing wife. It happened in my brother's divorce and custody case. She fled thirteen days after the child was born with no word on where she took his child. from Pensacola, FL by Scott
Comment: The courts deffinitely favor women in divorce cases. In my divorce case the wife was awarded custody of the kids because she was "the better parent". However a few years later our youngest daughter, 14 at the time of the incident, ended up pregnant and had an abortion. Things might have ended up differently if I had been granted custody but we will never know! from pensacola/fl
Comment: i agree not only do they favor the mother, the state will knowingly forge documents to help the mother win. i spent seventeen years as a local fire fighter but the state claimed they couldn't find me. from pensacola/fl by michael
Comment: got a divorce and judge gave wife alomoney 1300.00 month when she made more then i did we had no cildren kim kevicski
alway is for the woman in all cases it time for a change from pensacola fl by j.w.
Comment: The system is so skewed in favor of the mothers. For example, the Florida Department of Family and Children Services has three cases filed against my son's mother and still they refuse to acknowledge she is an unfit parent. She herself has admitted that I am the better parent and the court system still allows her primary custodial parental rights. The florida courts have all but admitted that she is given more parental rights simply because she has a vagina. from Fort Walton Beach/Florida by Steven
Comment: You betcha, they do. Wife keeps the home, all joint assets, files joint taxes and keeps THAT money, refinances the house and spends ALL the equity. Husband, who is disabled, is left with nothing. All this after 30+ years of marriage. Not very equitable in my book. from Milton by Pamela
Comment: How right he is. My ex wife after being court ordered to give me visitation at the visitation center; refused to for three months and judge Marcy Goodman told me to make myself more aviliable after taking her to court for contempt of court. The ex wife also tells me how that she has the power and uses our daughter against me all the time as well as somehow continuing to circumvent the proper channels to receive child support. Which has caused me to appear to be behind in child support. I haved tried to talk with the department of revenue on at least three different occasions to prove that i'm not they told me, rather rudely to take it to court meanwhile she is receiving almost 60% of my income. Leaving me unable to pay my bills and the ex just tells me I gonna have to bow to her in order to stop the false arearage or take it to court. If men had 50/50 custody this kind of abuse toward both the primary and the secondary parents I think would stop! I think to the stress of paying so much child and not seeing it properly used would lessen, also the secondary parent would be able to spend more than a third of a month with the child. from milton by Jim
Comment: Florida divorce laws do favor the woman as do most Judges. I was recently divorced in Santa Rosa County and even though my wife of 18 years deserted me and her children, committed adultery (living with a younger man whore) and was found guilty of battery against me, she got everything she asked for. I now have to share custody of our children (even though she was an abusive wife and mom), pay her alimony and child support (she earns the same as I do but since she is self employed, she lied about her income) and she will also get a portion of my retirement one day (I won’t retire for another 20 years). This is what I now have to look forward to. This biased system ruined my life. 50 years ago she would have been shunned by the whole community and run out of town. 2000 years ago she would have been stoned. I believe we as a society are going backwards and our judicial system is very broken. No fault divorce stinks. Divorce should be heard by a jury of our peers and everything should be factored into the judgment. PS lawyers are scum and way over paid. I spent >$50,000.00 and…… I lost everything. by Timothy
Comment: This is very much true. in 1989 my wife was having an afair with a county deptity his wife is the one that told me after catching them together. after i confrounted my wife she divorced me and took my three children my home place that i was raised up in and all the contents and two acr of land also child support for 18 years that started at 800.00 then back to court for increse to 1300.00 month I WAS TAKEN TO COURT FOUR TIMES FOR MORE MONEY and i had to pay my attorney fees and hers, order by the judge. i have worked 600 to 800 hours of overtime for the last 19 years trying to make a livin in by doing so i could not see or be in my children lives like a good father should be and like i wonted to be . before my divorce i was a song leader and i worked with the youth minstery and injoyed my life but after all this hell i have not been able to get back to that life. the pain was to much to bear and i could not keep the faith with all the court battles and all the conflect. my children were being toren apart as well now that they are grown they have problem with trying to understanting it all and they blame me for not being there for them but i could'nt because i had to work all the time. the time off i had, i had to find work i could do so we could pay the bills. this just a little bit of what i have been throught so this is very much true and there needs to be some changes made the dads are very important in yours and my children lives to. my childern were 7years 5years 18 month old sorry for any mis spell words mybe you can understand what i trying to say thank for finely hearing me from pace fla by Radford
Comment: I think a lot of it depends on your attorney and which Judge you get. My case was several years ago, although it feels like yesterday due to the stress involved. I feel bad for this father whom seems to really care for his daughter and wants to see her. If his wife left with his daughter, then can't his attorney file papers to find her incontempt of court? I believe they could also call that "alination". If so, that is cause for the mother to lose custody on it's own. I would like to add that not all cases are the same, I fought with everything I had, then the father dropped out of her life and doesn't pay a dime. To the good supportive fathers like you, I wish you the best. from Pensacola, FL by Shelley
Comment: It's always been known that Florida is a "mother's" state. For some reason they think the mother should always raise the children and the father should always pay. This comes from a woman too. How fair is it that the child support guidelines will always have a father paying more child support than the woman, yet the woman is the one who has 75% custody. Father get's to see them on Weds, and every other weekend. That is the norm in the Florida Shared Parenting Agreement from Pensacola by Dorrian
Comment: I have seen this happen many times. I, myself, went through a divorce and custody battle in Escambia county in March 2003. I was worried beyond words that my ex-wife would get custody. I knew that she was just simply not the better parent. At the time, I went to five different lawyers. The first four told me, first thing, that she would get custody. I was the father, active duty military, and am the father of a 14 month old daughter. I was told there was no way I would get primary custody. Well, the fifth lawyer, told me otherwise. We fought long and hard and I now have primary custody of my daughter. As for my ex-wife (my daughter's mother), she sees her a couple times a month now and owes about 3 years of back child support. from Pensacola, FL by Matthew
Comment: This hasnt happen to me yet, but i can say that its the way of the world for us men. Really in marital situation its sad to say but men just lose all around. Really there's no way we can win when a system is set up to keep a certain race behind. I just dont really see what would motivate a person to want to invest in a family when the lopside outcome is for the head of the household. I would regret everthing if this were to happen to me. from Pensacola by Raymond
Comment: Yes, and what a family loss because it gets so much deeper than just custody. from Pensacola/Florida by Fred
Comment: I have a strange case. I am a resident of Pensacola. My son is a resident of Ohio. We are supposed to have shared parenting. from Cantonment, FL by Stephen
Comment: I'm a grandmother an it knot fair that a father cant have 50/50 be couse he is a male.thank you arbra from pensacola.fl by arbra
Comment: I do not believe that the judicial system or whatever favors women. Women are almost always getting custody because the woman or mother has took care of the child since day 1. Also, i believe that Dead-Beat Dads' should not even get custody of their children because they don't even pay child support. from Milton/Fl. by Bell
Comment: I do not think the court favors women/mothers. I believe that Escambia County has actually gone TOO FAR in many cases in effort to give the appearance of giving equal rights to fathers. Many men use the courts as a tool to harass their ex wives, not as a means to ensure their rights. I woner what efforts Will Lake has made to see his daughter. How many plane tickets has he bought to go see here where she lives? Obviously the woman does not live where she lives illegally. Any why did he post her picture on his website? If this is all about the child, why is there a picture of the ex wife there? This is a PERFECT example of someone not fighting for his child but fighting against his ex. If it has been 3 years since he has seen his daughter, that is his fault- and his alone. Men like this give father's rights a bad name. from Navarre, FL by Pat
Comment: Fathers don`t stand a chance!!! from FWB, Fl. by Hugh
Comment: Father's are more fit at times than the mothers, but the courts give them to the mothers. thats why Fathers run away, they don't get the chance to show it, they only get hit in the wallet and don't get to see the kids because they have to work longer now to make more money for the kids.... then the kids grow up resenting their father for not being around. from Milton, Fl by Jim
Comment: I feel that they do and i think it is wrong. I know many fathers that deserve custody of there kids. Fathers love their children just as much as the mothers do and in most cases can financially support them better. from Pensacola, Florida by Julie
Comment: uh, DUH! Yeah! from FWB by W.
Comment: I think that alot of Fathers are left out in the cold; Mothers are given full custody even in situations where the mother is so busy that the father picks his child up every afternoon and mom gets him whenever she gets off work or when she is not at some funtion for her community work or job; she is always putting her job and other duties first, the childs father spends the most time with him but she has all the rights. from Pace by Barbara
Comment: When I wet to go see an attorney about my divorce here in Escambia County, he asked for a $5000.00 retainer and gather information about my wife. After he said that, he then proceed to tell me that there are three family court judges here in Escambia County and that out of the three, two of them we hopefully will not be assigned to because they favor women over men in these cases. Not odds huh? from Pensacola, Florida by Mac
Comment: My son has a 5yr and a 2 1/2 yr old daughters. He does all the support and care for them. His wife and mother of the children chooses to be a stripper, stay gone for days, and has now infected him, and the kids with a communicable disease. Her own mother has thrown her out and now he and his kids are on their way here to start over. A year ago I had the girls for four months and was unaware what the mother was doing, and my son was working in New Orleans. I encouraged him to try to mend things, but it only gave her license to claim "instant child support" in Washington state while I had the girls, which my son had to pay with his income tax refund (very discouraging). Now he has found out the money he was sending her for their bank account, she spent and allowed the account to become so overdrawn with fees that now he cannot even get a bank account until all of that is paid. Circumstances need to be evaluated in each case "very carefully". from Pensacola, FL by Dana
Comment: Good luck to Steven fighting in FWB. Youll need it from valparaiso fl by sandy
Comment: Yes,the family court system does favor women in the custody cases. I speak from experience with my son. They say that they are thinking of what is best for the child,but they do not even care about that. All they want is the money from the man,and to give everything to the woman. It is so unfair to men. from Pensacola by Annie
Comment: The courts DEFINITELY favor women. I speak from experience. My ex-wife gets our children, child support, military retirement, AND a wonderful father to her children - which she can count on for everything from additional money, trips to the doctor, a great "sitter" for her to go and do as she pleases. It's a "win-win" situation for her. I would WELCOME the opportunity to have custody of the children and have her PAY ME. Then again, she wouldn't be able to handle it - like I do everyday. from Pensacola by Britt
Comment: You better believe women get the best deal. Women don't need to go to school and get a career. All they have to do is marry multiple men, divorce them, and then they can live "high on the hog". Court system is a joke. from Pensacola, FL by Wesley
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